Bridal shower or couples shower?

A couple's shower is becoming more popular and I thought about it since I wanted him to be involved and feel like he was having a party too. That and we lived together and it was being held at our place (the bridesmaids deemed it the most convenient location). He was there for the shower anyway, though probably mostly for the food.

But I read this article on getmarried.com about themes for couple showers. Here are my favorites:

Honeymoon heaven
For the couple who already “has everything” or for the couple planning a destination wedding that may be leaving the honeymoon as an afterthought, this theme is a great opportunity. It’s also good for inspiring ideas for the menu, drinks and décor as well as gifts, ranging from the cheap-‘n’-cheerful like a basket of sun care products for the couple to more expensive items like luggage or a camera. Look into ways guests can help make the honeymoon memorable, too, like paying for an upgrade on their accommodations, a week’s car rental or a special day trip or activity.

House proud
If you know the couple is buying a new home, a shower themed around home renovations and maintenance is ideal. Give each guest a season or a floor so that there will be a good variety of gifts.

Stock the pantry
If the couple loves to cook, ask guests to bring kitchen-inspired gifts–everything from mixing bowls and gadgets to chef’s knives and appliances. Have them include a recipe that not only requires the use of their gift but somehow reflect each giver’s personality or style. Arrange the gifts on a table and have the couple of honor try to identify who gave what, based on the choice of recipe and the gift.

What kind of shower will you have (if any)?

Bring in Jack for the shower - is it a good idea and what do I do?

So I've sorta decided that I'm going to have a Jack 'n Jill shower. Mostly because his relatives aren't coming in until the day before the wedding and I thought this would be easier for them.
I also want him to have a party and participate in silly games and stuff too.

Well that and he made a crack early on that his family probably wouldn't come to the shower. He has since told me to disregard that comment because he doesn't know anything about showers. But I still feel like they would be more involved if it's for both of us you know?

So Saturday will be busy:
1. Airport pick-ups
2. Possibly shower
3. Family/wedding party dinner - rehearsal is on Friday, probably have an informal dinner Friday

The Knot just came out with this cute article about shower ideas. It would be fun to have a chef giving lessons or have everyone bring home their first knitted creations.

One of my bms told Mr. Chic 'n Cheap the shower is our responsibility if we do Jack 'n Jill style (all Jack 'n Jill showers she's attended were sponsored by the couple). My Google searches didn't say that though. I am more happy to plan and contribute, but is it really my sole responsibility? I was freaked out when she said that because it meant more stuff for me to do. I was also kinda hurt because this is the bm that I almost asked to leave the party because she didn't even seem interested in me as a friend. It seemed like something else she didn't want to do (there was a misunderstanding once and she didn't come to a dress fitting and I thought she was passively telling me she didn't want to accompany me to give opinions on dresses). Sigh, wedding drama indeed.